Cheat and your understanding of it

A WOMAN CALLS IT CHEATING......A MAN
LAUGHS OUT LOUD.
To a woman , everything not liked is easily
renamed cheating so let's not start with them.
What is cheating to a man? (as it relates to a
relationship)
Well, the answer depends on who the cheat is
and who the cheated is.
Generally, a man will see as cheating, anything a
woman does that involves (but not limited to)
getting intimate with another man. Forget story, if
you are caught, it is done and dusted. On the
other hand, men almost don't cheat. Why?
Simple. Men believe that they cheat only when
they begin to share the love with another. Even
that has been stylishly justified with polygamy
rights.
That's when you suddenly hear of "family
traditions" previously unheard of.
"the 1st son in my family must always have a
child outside"
Seriously speaking, men really do believe this
hence the high number of "it was just a one time
thingy" "she was digging me and I must have had
a little too much to drink bla bla bla" etc
At least 40% of the people I know are men. Of
this 40%, maybe 0.01% of them are men who
have never cheated in a relationship. (not to
worry guys, you can claim you are part of the
0.01% if your madam asks).
Now, the women reading this are nodding in
approval like the guys cheated with monkeys.
Abeggi, we are in this together. I know the
percentage of females who haven't cheated in a
relationship is much higher compared to the
0.01% of the men but it is still small compared to
those who have.
The default setting of a man no try at all. We
stare, approach, talk down, touch down, run down
then run off (repeat all) but outside this default
setting, why do people cheat?
Hmmmm it's a very serious issue, one that has,
more than any other, destroyed things.
Unsatisfactory conduct and performance in a
relationship is the biggest "genuine" reason (if
ever there was one). A good kid will remain a
good kid but to be honest, it is easier for a
female to be faithful when the man is totally
committed. This is not to say that there haven't
been cases of people who had committed
partners and still did but as a general rule, it is
easier to stay true when expectations are being
pursued.
The second biggest reason is money. That on its
own can be a whole post.
Next on the line is Sex (or the lack of it) but the
most puzzling reasons are the ones that cannot
be explained. Where it is not about money, not
about sex but an inexplicable longing for the
company of the other.
We are all going to condemn it and call it all
sorts but wait a minute, if everybody is innocent
then nobody is guilty......yeah right.
We all are or know people who have in the past
or even still in the present, cheat but who are we
to talk? we aren't exactly clean too (one stubborn
person is still "stronging head" on innocence)
First things first people, men and women need to
redefine within their environment, what the
standard definition of cheating would be. This is
the only time the pursue of this standard can be
effected. Then maybe a metal lockable pant for
the guys can help too. While saying this, it would
also not be bad for you to rise your game
(whatever level it takes woman)
Cases differ from one place to another but I
always maintain that the ability to have a friend
as a partner goes a long way because genuine
conversations that prevent/resolve some of these
issues can then flow.
Finally, back to you, Mr Innocent. Okay, we didn't
ignore you, we just felt you could be exempted
from this discussion.